You may well have heard of the “seven-year itch“. It refers to the time of your life where you’ve been with the same partner – married or not – for seven years, and you get that itch of boredom. You have long forgotten the dating world. You’ve been with the same person for so long that you start looking at pastures new. Well, maybe it doesn’t happen to everyone, but that doesn’t mean that you have to fall into the trap of wanting to have an affair just because you’ve been married for seven years.
Sex seems to be the first thing to go when it comes to married life. Life gets in the way. Work gets in the way. Kids…it all stacks up until bedtime is just the time of day you lay beside each other saying nothing. So, let’s turn it around. Instead of a seven-year itch, why not try out a seven-year spice up? For the sake of your sex life, your partner and your marriage, you need to consider not letting the sexy side of you fall by the wayside. And with that in mind, here are some of the best ways to spice up your relationship.
Go Back To Dating…Each Other!
You miss the thrill of being picked up looking hot at the door. So, do it. Ask your partner out on a date. Make them come and pick you up – even if that means leaving your house and they ring the doorbell – and take you out. Make it feel like new again; maybe replay some of your first dates together.
Mix It Up
In the bedroom, you can easily fall into a pattern together. Sex with someone you love is always so much more of a connection, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t get boring. Instead of sex by numbers on a Saturday night, why not check out this sexy maid costume here and make it a night to remember? There are so many ways to spice up life in the bedroom; make it fun!
Plan To Be Spontaneous
It sounds like a massive contradiction, but if you have kids together, plan for someone to take the kids for the day or the night, and decide at the last minute what to do together. Get the kids to Grandma’s and make a last-second plan together – the whole day is yours, and the spontaneity is fun!
Playtime is not just for those early dating years. Fill up some tubs of water balloons and have an indoor fight. Play hide and seek. Tell stupid jokes and play board games. Laughter leads to kisses. Kissing leads to so much more! Take your time and enjoy each other’s company. Remember what made you laugh about each other. That’s the best spice for the bedroom there is.
Married (or long-term) love settles into something warmer, and it’s easy to take it for granted. Instead, make the warm embers a fire again: you’ll never regret trying!