Hi again ladies, for this article I’m going to be writing about respect and mutual respect. Respect is a big thing in a relationship because if he doesn’t respect you then he’s going to walk all over you, or not treat you very well. Some people see respect as a fear tool, as in you respect your boss at work, but I more-so mean mutual respect. It’s a healthy thing. For instance, I respect my wife enough to apologise to her when I feel I’m in the wrong for whatever shitty thing I’ve done, and the same applies to her – we’re human after all and we’re forever making mistakes. I made a ton of them to get to the position in life I am now. I’m sure you did too.
Here’s a really great video on respecting yourself as a woman 🙂
So here’s the thing – don’t sleep with him the first time you meet him. I don’t know what it is with us guys but it’s like a subliminal trigger in our heads that switches the “You’re not a challenge” button. From then on we ultimately lose all respect for you that we ever had for you however large or small. Seriously, make us run around a bit, get us all hot under the collar and eager to get into bed with you – even if you’re wanting to yourself. It can end up a fun game in the end. Just don’t draw it out for too long or we’ll get bored and stop chasing. Why wait you ask? Well, it subliminally tells us men that we’re not always going to get what we want from you, and that’s a good thing, because we definitely shouldn’t. That saying, watch the out for the guys that are only in it for the chase, because once they bang you they’re off like a shot. I shared a house with a guy like that once. He’s had more women than Tiger Woods and that isn’t a good thing!
Challenge in a relationship is a good thing, so you have to ask yourself – the guy that you’re interested in? What would his ideal date be? Moonlit walk down an exotic beach? Dinner for two at a nice restaurant? Greasy spoon? Night out on the tiles? – all of this is fine but it has to co-ordinate with your interests too, and how much extra he is willing to exert himself. You can generally lead by example from the first date for the rest of a relationship. People rarely change their habits, so if he isn’t willing to rise up to the challenge or make any effort at all then it may be time to look elsewhere.
Let him chase you. Listen, no matter what we say us guys are hard-wired to chase women that we’re interested in. It can be subtle, or it can be obvious, we’ll chase you until you’re giving off those “get the hell away from me” vibes. So if he’s interested in you make him chase you, and make it a little harder for him and see if he rises to the challenge. As I said before it gives off that aura of respect that us men subliminally obey. My now wife made me chase her around for nearly a month before I even got a sniff off her bedroom. Why? Because it tested my staying power and how I liked her as a person and not as a disposable sex toy.