They are lying to you
We’re all told from a very young age that to survive in this world you must get good grades at school to get a good job, which will heighten your chances to earn a living for the family that you create (however small) to be truly happy. Yup, it’s literally pounded into our skulls from a very young age that if you don’t follow society and do well at school, work, and family then you will end up a knuckle dragging under-the-bridge nobody.
So what if School fails you? What if you don’t necessarily understand society? What if you’re just happy with only you at the moment? What if you HATE your job?
Society is a mess
Society fails to answer these serious questions and we can often find ourselves stuck in the mud with nowhere to go. So we keep chipping away, eroding the fabric of our dreams of a happy life with every unsuccessful day that passes us by. After all, you don’t have the tools to make it successful, for that you need money and education; something has to give. You just need a lucky break, something to fall onto your lap to whisk you away on the cloud to success.
Guess what? That’s not going to happen
But there is hope.
A trickle of hope
Hope in the sense that if you get off your bum and take a look at yourself. Take a good long hard look in that mirror and truly look into those eyes down to the depths of your soul. Stop lying to yourself. You know yourself that you’re unhappy. You’re a Fly in a bleach-cleaned room and you know it. Let’s try and make it happier, let’s try and look at life from your perspective.
What do you like? What does Sir/Madam enjoy doing with their time. What gets those goose pimples tingling? You see, from what I’ve learned in life for the last ten years at least is to build a career around the things you like, not the other way around. My career wholly exists around me, the computer and the Internet. Three things I absolutely love. What a great start to my life, right? You should start by doing the exact same thing. Forget the phrase “a job is a job” because that word was invented by soul sucking corporates to sucker people into working for minimum wage all of their life. And is used by people that are unhappy with their life choices and don’t want to see you making a better go of it.
We’re not all perfect
Don’t worry if you don’t know what you like. Hey, I had to start somewhere too. When I gave up my boozy, druggy existence I had to start from square one and truly discover myself. I mean truly. It took me a good while to realise what I liked and didn’t. I expect you will be the same. Once you have a firm grasp of the activities you like doing, and no I don’t mean watching Netflix and eating pizza, then try and build a working community around it.
A couple of examples:
- A friend I worked with who is a fitness finatic followed her dreams and quit work to host internet-TV shows on fitness.
- My friend Alba is going against the grain of society to follow her passion in writing. – You should read her blog. It’s quite amazing.
- One of my students I worked with quit to start his own bicycle restoration shop
So don’t let society sucker you into thinking you’re less than you actually are because they are lieing to you. Everyone has the potential to be a great, great person. You just need to have the ambition to achieve it.
You just need. Hah. I make it sound so easy. Actually, it’s not. It’s scary, it’s scarier than running naked as fast as you can at a Hornets nest. Because there’s no safety net if you fall, and people will be there to say “I told you so”. It’ll test you, it’ll change you. But if you stick at it and make the necessary changes as you learn you’ll be fine. Just don’t worry about failing. People fail all the time.
“Not one single person in history was an instant success on their first try. It took a lot of failure to finally succeed” ~ Me.
So armed with the knowledge you now have go out and embrace your destiny! Start afresh, build on your likes and dislikes or go an entirely different direction. Just be that person you’ve always wanted to be. Don’t let society tell you who you are. You tell YOU who you are.