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I write a lot about the importance of self-love, avoiding traps of codependency, and when to leave dysfunctional/abusive relationships.  However, I haven’t ...


There might be nothing more to say other than “well, shit” when your cyclical, on-and-off-again relationship fails once more.  You knew that was a strong ...


Robert Jensen, author of Getting Off:  Pornography and the End of Masculinity, writes about how pornography is eroding authenticity in relationships and ...


It is normal to want connection and a companion in this life journey.  However, connections with others are deeply compromised and broken by emotional abuse. ...


Sometimes, people call a psychic when they fear their partner is cheating on them or they want to know if a somewhat dramatic romantic situation will magically ...


co-written by Tricia Barker and Ethan Michael Carter Her Perspective:  There are annoying men and women in this world who try to make their dates or partners ...


One of the most important messages of my near-death experience was to love myself.  It took me many years to learn this lesson more deeply, but I know that ...


Many Generation Xers and Millennials are plagued with a “perpetual teenager” kind of feeling.  Not everyone, but some of us.  I know that my wounded places ...


The terms “soulmate” and “twin flame” are damaging delusions that fuel a lot of codependent behavior. I kid you not when I say that I once met a ...

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    Tricia Barker August 9, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. I was in a long-term interracial relationship, and I noticed how both white men and women were friendlier with me when I was not with him. It broke my heart to notice this. I think he was accustomed to stares and coldness and wrote people off quickly who behaved like that. When you live in a conservative area it is more difficult than I imagined it might be in this time period.

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    Tricia Barker September 7, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    Thanks! I’m glad you liked the post.

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    Tricia Barker August 9, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    You are a pioneer. Good for you for at least trying to talk about the issue with other men. I know women get quickly labeled as “man haters” for bringing up this topic and other topics, but men also face ridicule. I find it mind-blowing that the people trying to bring awareness, health, connection, and education to others get attacked. I remember Robert Jensen talking about all the Texas men who wanted to start fights, verbal and otherwise, with him for his beliefs.

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    Tricia Barker August 8, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Thank you! Dr. Jensen visited one of the college campuses where I taught English, and it was so encouraging to see young men and women think about this issue seriously.

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    Tricia Barker August 8, 2017 at 2:49 pm

    Thanks for your comment. I’ve heard Dr. Jensen speak with college students, and it is encouraging that education can open the minds of young men and women to this issue. I was especially encouraged to see young men raise their hands and ask Dr. Jensen about how they can basically treat women with more dignity while living in this culture.

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    Tricia Barker August 1, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    I’m glad you are learning to do this for yourself. It will give you greater peace and security. 🙏

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    Tricia Barker June 21, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Thanks for reading and for your comment!

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    Tricia Barker June 17, 2017 at 11:42 am

    Thanks for your comment! Spreading love (instead of manipulation or pain) is the greater point. I’m glad you get it:-)