The Relationship Blogger is a quickly growing relationships, dating and advice platform based in the UK. It is owned and operated by Raymond Baxter. Hosted at therelationshipblogger.com, this site seeks to expand the insight it offers by hosting new and diverse voices on the topics of love, sex, relationships, dating and mental health. All perspectives are welcome as we do not believe there is one definition of love.
At its launch, TRB was unable to compensate writers. However, our site has grown. An opt-in pot is now established based on site revenues. That pot is currently $200 per month meaning we can guarantee our syndicated writers a minimum of $10 per post.
In order to receive payment, an invoice should be sent to raymond@
When formatting your invoice, each line item should reflect a value of 1 (one) rather than a dollar amount. Your total will be the number of pieces you submitted. PayPal is the preferred payment method, so please include your PayPal address on your invoice.
Guest posts, as of July 1, 2017, will not be considered for pay.
Syndicated contributors will receive a quarterly syndication bonus (see below).
What We Are Seeking
TRB looks forward to expanding the conversation on relationships and mental health. We are currently seeking weekly and monthly columnists to provide personal essays, research-based articles, interviews, product reviews, fiction, poetry and vlogs (or a combination thereof–pitch your idea!). We also seek advertisers and volunteer editors. We request all writing be within the 1200-2000 word range.
Upcoming themes reflect relationships, mental health and their intersection. Themes can be used as suggestions; work need not strictly conform. They include:
October: Rape Culture: We want men to speak up and tell us what this is, what it does, how you are working against it, how it affects you daily, how it affects your parenting, and more. We want women and non-binary folks to speak up as well. All voices are welcome, but it is time for men to take responsibility and be the change.
Additionally, we want to recognize men who refuse to play the role of predator, who stand against the cultural norm even when it is uncomfortable or feels unfair. We invite all voices to share the hardships for men (interacting with others’ children at the playground, being suspect of harboring sexual intent when offering friendship and more). There are true challenges to presenting masculinity. We hope you understand this to be directly, causally related to the realities of rape culture and that you will give this theme due consideration as you submit your ideas.
November: Sex Industry, Sex Workers and Sex. We want to know how to make sex better, what you’ve tried, why and how it impacts your mental well-being. We want to know about disabilities and sex. We want to know what sex you are having and what sex you aren’t. We want work on all types of couplings and triplings and quadruplings.
Of special interest are diverse voices representing survivorship, LGBTQIA+ issues, male-identified voices, gender transition and people of color. We recognize that TRB needs to grow in these areas for broader conversations to take place.
December: Neglect. Childhood abuse. Violence, neglect and survivorship are deeply meaningful topics to the TRB staff. We want voices of solo moms, solo dads, solo kids who latch-keyed their way through life. We want to know what you are doing to put food on the table, how you survived and what/how you are still surviving. We want you to know that we see you, we hear you, and we want to help you be witnessed.
And we are going to dedicate this issue to a cause, raising donations for a charity local to Raymond Baxter, The Relationship Blogger publisher. In fact, this organization, Great Yarmouth Community Trust, is one Raymond used to work for, and has been an inspiration for creating and broadening this platform into what it is becoming.
Raymond says, “[Great Yarmouth Community Trust is] the best thing that ever happened to me. They brought me out of my shell, they taught me responsibility, accountability, confidence, reliability, trust in friendship, trust in management, [etc.]. They even healed a lot of issues with my wife and I indirectly. I developed a spine working at that place, and I also learned to watch people, form proper boundaries.
“The core message [for The Relationship Blogger] was one that I developed from there. I had never even considered progression through collaboration until I went there, never even knew it was possible. I still believed the world was a game to be played; I win or I lose. [Great Yarmouth Community Trust] taught me we could all win eventually.”
Donating to Great Yarmouth Community Trust supports access to services for mental, physical and sexual health, resources for at-risk families with children, education, progression, and wellbeing. We hope you will join us in supporting this amazing group and the families local to TRB headquarters.
What We Are Asking
TRB claims first digital rights, first anthology rights, and exclusive content rights for 30-90 days (specified upon acceptance) after which guest contributors can republish elsewhere.
Alternatively, TRB claims all rights to syndicated pieces. As compensation, syndicated columnists who have published at least 6 pieces over 3 months will be paid a quarterly syndication bonus based on their republished article earnings.
By submitting your work via form or email, you agree to these terms.
How to Submit
Please send original, completed pieces in the body of an email to Editor-in-Chief, Shawna Ayoub Ainslie. Email submissions@
If you have an idea for a column, submit one completed piece and pitch followup ideas. Submissions should be error free. Contributors must clearly indicate whether or not they wish syndication for their submission. Allow four weeks for response. Simultaneous submissions welcome.
Extra Help Submitting
To help you avoid common submission pitfalls, please be aware of the following:
- The TRB submissions email (submissions@
therelationshipblogger.com) is read at minimum on the first of each month. At maximum, it is also checked on the 15th. Allow a full four weeks for responses. If your piece is time sensitive (meaning it addresses a timely current event), please clearly indicate that in your subject heading. Example: TIMELY Essay on Violence and Brexit.
- Established artists/syndicated columnists will be given a TRB account and asked to upload their own work.
- Work for each month must be submitted by email or present as a draft on the site prior to the first of the month to be scheduled that month. (In other words, all work for June must be submitted by June 1. If it is submitted June 2, it will be considered for July.)
- Any links within your post should be relevant to the topic and not to your own site. We link back to all artists in their bios. If you want to link back to your own site and you are not an established, syndicated columnist, please query Raymond about sponsored posts: raymond@
- Please submit completed work in the body of an email or through the form below. If you are pitching, be sure your pitch clearly explains the piece you intend to write for the TRB.
We Want to Work with You!
Is all this nitty gritty intimidating? Don’t worry. Submit.
Raymond Baxter, TRB Owner
Shawna Ayoub Ainslie, TRB Editor-in-Chief