What Turns Men On?

What turns men on? Well, it’s a good thing that you would ask this because I’m a man, and I get turned on frequently. Just be aware that men are wildly different and what turns me on may be quite different to what turns the next man on — however let’s try and paint with broad brushes so we get the basics down. And you obviously want to know how to get him firing off like a rocket or you wouldn’t be asking this question, right?

Let’s begin with the basics. I’m going to start the article assuming that you don’t know the difference between a cucumber and a penis. I’m sure you do, but then that way there can be no confusing what I’m talking about, and I can get straight to the point and be a bit open and blunt about it. Are we all on board? Yes. Great! Let’s go!

What turns men on? Men are turned on by confident women

There is SO much misinformation about confidence in today’s society it’s unreal. When I was younger I used to think confidence was standing my ground and not backing down. I’m afraid that’s arrogance. And a lot of people get this mixed up, or at least they used to. People think confidence is not what turns men on. You’d be wrong.

I’ve heard countless women tell me that obviously their potential partner didn’t like confident women as a way to dismiss the encounter that had taken place. Sometimes people are overbearing and mistake that for confidence. No, confidence is also the willingness to listen to differing viewpoints and take ownership when we are in the wrong. Men love confident women — perhaps some just don’t know it. Every woman I have known to be confident are awesome to be around. That’s just not me thinking that. Confidence is universally sexy, believe me. Think of all the confident women in movies and the large following of men they have. What turns men on? Certainly those women.

Boobs, legs, ass.

This one is what we talk mostly on what turns men on. I’m a leg man myself. So are some of my friends. Many drunk nights in my youth my friends and I have spent admiring the memories we had of the girls with great legs. When faced in a social situation with women that we are attracted to, men tend to flaunt their best assets. Mine were my eyes and my height, lucky I didn’t need to do anything to flaunt those.

Men are very visual with attraction so learn what your best attractors out of these three are and flaunt them to the maximum. There’s no need to go crazy commando, or make them stick out like a sore thumb, there are ways and means to flaunt those assets without going overboard. If you have attractive legs then wear skirts, etc.

Lesser talked about (hair, smell, gentleness)

I haven’t seen this talked about much but there are other things us men look out for too. And I think it varies from man to man. I’m definitely a sucker for a woman that has long hair. The longer the better for me. I’m not entirely sure why. My wife is always cutting her hair after it gets too long and I don’t like it. But it’s about what makes her feel good about herself I guess.

Sometimes the sweet smell of a female body can drive me wild with passion — of course I have to be attracted to her first. If you’ve seen the creepy men taking a sniff of the woman as she walks past before he gets a slap on TV, yeah, that’s a thing. We like your smells. It’s what turns men on.

There’s a lot to be said about the gentle nature of some women — I see my wife as the Yin to my Yang. Whilst I’m focused, determined, protective, and providing, she’s kicking her own awesomeness with being caring, loving, helpful, and nurturing. I’m not saying all women, or even most women should be like this, but certainly I know most (if not all) of the men I know are with their wives because of their incredibly caring and nurturing side behind closed doors.

Even lesser talked about, I don’t even know if most men are consciously aware of this (wrists, neck, v-line beside boobs)

I’m sure a lot of married men that have explored their wife’s fully will agree with me here but certainly these parts of the woman’s body (apart from the vagina and surrounding areas) are the ultimate expression of delicate femininity, and such a super turn on. In the morning when my wife likes to come in and see me I like sitting down and cuddling the v-line just above her breasts. It’s a very intimate and private cuddle and I expect it isn’t a cuddle for those that are just friends or acquaintances.

Learn to use your wrists just below the palm of your hands, your neck, and the v-line above your boobs to drive men wild. I honestly don’t have any tips and tricks on this one, I just know it’s a thing and it drives me insane with passion when done in the right way.

Soon you’ll have a really good understanding of what turns men on!

Talk about yours and his feelings

Nothing tells me, “take me to bed and screw my brains out” more than overcoming some sort of hard barrier to talk about in the relationship. This is real, powerful, and definitely what turns men on. In short this is pretty much called make up sex. Most notably after an argument. But it doesn’t need to be — you may have just talked him through something really difficult to own and he’s feeling particularly vulnerable right now. Don’t leave him to his own devices, jump on him. Especially if he’s taking ownership of it.

Position yourself in a certain way - learn about good posture

Laughing as I type this but there have been times when I have talked to some women that I have had absolutely no attraction to and they have sat or moved in a certain way that highlighted a hidden asset of theirs and it’s driven me wild to the point of blushing. Never underestimate the positions you place yourself in and the visual stimulation that men are slaves to. Learn about good posture and use it to your advantage. A good example would be like this woman that is sitting innocently, observe her posture:

Listen to him

There’s a lot to be said about listening and what turns men on. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman deeply interested in what I have to say. It might be boring, I may have said it a hundred times before, but if she’s sitting there, eyes wide, taking every bit of what I am saying in — this is deeply attractive. I’m not saying she has to be my lapdog as I tell her everything and she should sit there like a mute, only listening to me as I serve her up a large helpings of my ego, but there are times when I just want to be listened to, even more sexy and enjoyable if it’s someone I’m attracted to. I’m sure you like being listened to as well, then return the favour.

Be his hero when he’s vulnerable

Men are stoic, hard going, focused and determined most of the time, but on occasion something will happen that will make him more vulnerable than usual. In relationships there’s a lot to be said on how men translate having sex to love. When he’s vulnerable he’s going to be looking for someone to make him feel better. Be his hero. I swear that will turn him on quicker than a bullet shot from a gun.

Let’s have a conversation about sex before we finish..

You’ll have noticed in this article I’ve avoided saying anything stupid like, “grab his dick, he’ll love it” and whilst there’s nothing wrong with being the one that initiates sex, even if you don’t know him well. I think everyone has the freedom of choice to do what they wish with their bodies these days. But for me it’s always sexier when the woman teases me into the act. The feeling that I was the one that made the decision to go for it. Of course consent is always a thing too, but knowing I have consent to have my fun, and feeling like I was the one that initiated the whole situation, even if I wasn’t, makes it feel that whole lot better.

Hope you’ve enjoyed reading what turns men on — stay tuned for more!