When A Guy Stops Texting You Everyday - What To Do?

When A Guy Stops Texting You Everyday - What To Do? Ah, the age old mystery. You go out on a date with a guy that you really like. Or maybe you’ve just been chatting for a long time over text and you think it may lead to something deeper. Maybe you’ve went and invited him further, like have sex, and now you’re feeling super vulnerable!

I get it, I’ve been there. If this was me twenty years ago and google was a thing I’d probably be asking, “what to do when a woman stops texting you every day?” I hear you, you’re probably young and brimming full of love and excitement for the world, and how exciting it is to have your heart bounce into your throat every time he texts, or you see him, life is amazing, right?

Then BOOM. He stops texting you every day. It could be every two or three days, or maybe just gone, in a flash. As if what you had together meant nothing. How could he?

Like what? What the hell? It sends you into a spiral of a bazillion questions analysing over a million previous interactions with him. What could you have done? You know you’ve done something wrong, right? Yup, you’ve messed it up, again, with another guy. Damn, what was it this time??

Okay stop!!

When a guy stops texting you everyday — he’s generally lost interest

When a guy stops texting you everyday he’s generally lost interest. That’s the way it is. It sucks, yes, but think of us men as very easy to read. Don’t listen to what we say, that’ll just confuse you, listen to how we act around you. Men are very straight forward in our actions and there are no double meanings. If we stop doing something it means that it’s low down on our priority list. It sucks ass, yes it does, but it’s the way it is. Avoid trying to get his interest back because who wants to be around a flaky man that doesn’t know if he’s coming or going, right?

Don’t take it to heart. I’m sure you’re awesome, beautiful, and inspiring as you are, but sometimes people don’t gel together well, and despite what you’ve heard on the internet men aren’t only after one thing. You’ll find that most men value deep relationships with a woman, and perhaps you weren’t the right fit for him — don’t take it personally! As my science teacher always said to me, there is someone for everyone. I think he was right.

Thinking of it positively you’ve also dodged a bullet

Okay, so on the positive side then perhaps you’ve dodged a bullet on this one. When a guy stops texting you every day and gives you no reason for his delayed response then is this a trait you want to go into a relationship with? Someone that can’t give you an acceptable reason as to why they’ve been a bit off recently, or doesn’t even have the gall to give you a call back? Imagine that in a long term relationship? Imagine going into that?! Sounds a bit disastrous, doesn’t it?

He could have been a shy guy

Whilst I think there’s nothing wrong with shy guys, being one myself a long time ago, I think there’s a lot to be said about them needing to do a bit of work on themselves before they go out into the dating world. When a guy stops texting you everyday, and he’s a shy guy, then chances are he doesn’t have the courage to tell you that he isn’t interested in you and will slowly fade into the ether. Another bullet dodged, right? I mean think of it practically — you don’t want to spend time shacked up with a man that doesn’t have the courage to communicate his feelings effectively to you, right?

Or he could have just been playing you from the start

It’s a tough one but he could have been a general run of the mill douchebag that was playing you for all that he could get. To be clear, this isn’t most guys out there, just generally the guys that have the confidence to approach you and feel calm and relaxed in doing so, because guess what? They’ve had a lot of practice! That’s right — you aren’t the only one they have shimmied up to trying to slyly prize your number away from you. When a guy stops texting you everyday and he’s a douchebag, then think of it as a lucky escape. Don’t feel disheartened though, this is probably about 1% of the male population, perhaps even lower. It’s just that they are the loudest right now. You’ll get wiser to that though!

Overall — don’t get corrupted by the whole think tank that men are bad

When a guy stops texting you back everyday and he’s one of those that I’ve described, understand that there are many, many other men out there that will absolutely be happy to make your acquaintance, and you won’t need to feel like you have to impress him, or do silly things to make him happy, or get him to text back. Just do you — and that’ll be awesome.

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