internet dating - beginning your journey

So you’re new to this right? I get it. You’ve logged onto your computer and want to try out the wonders of the Internet and all that dating has to offer on it, right? Awesome if you’ve landed straight here. I appreciate that you’re taking the time to read this. Anyway, once you’ve taken the initiative to go out into the far reaches of cyberspace and catch that all important guy (that I’m sure will eventually be lovely) you may want to take note of a few things before you start out. Luckily, I’m going to list a few for you. Aint I sweet? heh.

1. Men always have, and always will just want to F**k.

men and sex

If you think back to all those bad dates you’ve been on in person when you’ve met up with some hopped up sex freak that’s only interested in taking you back to his place, and chances are that most of the good dates you’ve been on it’s the only thing that’s been on the guys mind too. The internet is no different. You’ll have to take the rough with the smooth I’m afraid, but I’m sure once you’ve waded through all the endless unasked for cock pictures and the guys that think you’re no more than meat on a stick you’ll eventually meet that right guy. Just because it’s the internet doesn’t mean we take on a personality change. So remember; when you’re having an awesome and stimulating conversation with him about the fall of the Berlin wall and the effect Eastern Communism has had on Europe, chances are he’s still probably imagining what you’d look like with your legs wrapped around his back.

2. The male ego is super fragile

Here’s a video from Matt Townsend; he’s a doctor in the field of Human Development. Interesting stuff. As a guy myself I super agree with all that he’s said. You can apply all his communication methods to online and offline.

3. Please be super aware that all Internet communication is asynchronous

What do I mean by asynchronous? Well, it’s not communicated in real time. So that thing you said last night when you were so drunk you could barely stand up? Yeah, it’ll probably be there tomorrow morning, and the next, and the next! Possibly even years later. So it might be a handy idea to analyse what you’re going to write to your fellow peers. Completely digest the information that has been sent to you, take a moment or three to take heed of what’s been said and then answer. This is an advantage of the Internet too; because of the subtle time differences between communications it gives us the chance to take a moment and plan out our replies, and of course not come across as a complete bitch.

4. People love to share

This is a warning. If you meet a decent guy over the internet then whatever you do be very cautious of what you send him. In the past, in my early years and at the height of my single-dom my guy friends would always love to share the latest nude they received from a hot girl. I think I remember one girl even sent a guy a dirty video of herself, which I was shown and a hundred others. Yeah, you could argue that I didn’t hang with very nice people back then and you’re probably right. But this type of behaviour actually exists. Be wary, and only share your nude body in person (if you want to of course) 🙂

5. Avoid too good to be true stuff

online dating scams

As an experienced male Internetter I’ve came across my fair share of women emailing and messaging me that if I sign up to their cam service they’ll be my [whatever]. It just simply isn’t true, if I did give them my details they would no doubt have ran away with my money. It doesn’t stop there; I’ve had a friend constantly hassled by Eastern European women asking for money to get them over here if they promise to be his girlfriend and the more than popular Penis enlargement emails. Gmail spam is awesome for that! So yeah, just watch yourself – I can’t honestly comment what the scams are for women (I’d love to hear them! Feel free to comment) but I’m sure they’re out there and aplenty.

6. And finally (only because I can’t think of any more)

Have absolutely great fun. I mean this. When used safely you can have a super time! Although this may sound super daunting at first it’s really asking for no more caution than you would use in real life.

Raymond is a Mental Health activist and cryptocurrency enthusiast. He fuels his activism by taking to the web and trying to create core change in the way people interact. As an ex-Community​ Manager, Raymond has a unique approach to communication and relationships and believes the way forward in life is improving the interactions between one another. Raymond started his blogging activities as a way to heal from a chequered past, and through this, his blog has become something far more empowering than he ever imagined. And thus, The Relationship Blogger Magazine was born.


  1. The website looks simple with basic information. As mentioned in my previous comment, the widget needs to be worked on. Another thing I observed is that there is no header. Once you improve these areas – I believe that it will improve your conversion rates. The description looks to be good – you are on the right track.

    • Thanks Shivaram. I really didn’t notice that I was missing headers. Awesome notice. Cheers! Again, what was your perception of the article that I wrote? 🙂

  2. I enjoyed reading your great articles on this topic….seems to be the primary method people tend to meet these days….granted, I’m 62 so definitely ‘old school’ and long past this market. You properly portray dating in general as a delicate and ‘proceed with caution’ notion….cyberspace compounds that for sure, as people can really be whomever they choose behind the computer screen.

    Just a few years back I remember reading about how much scamming was behind the overseas romances…..where women would tell men how much they loved them in the quest for Western Union money to bring them to United States….not mention the women were portrayed with fake photos, gorgeous and around 25 years old targeting men in their 40s and 50s….nuts!

    Also…just wondering how AdultFriendFinder didn’t make you top dating site list! haha

    Great site! Bruce

    • Haha! Thanks! 🙂 I didn’t mention any dating websites because that was an article on how to connect with people for free. And yep, you’re right, scamming was rife in that area only a few years ago. It was worse at the beginning when I was 16 and horny as a raging bull. I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs but luckily sites like Facebook and MSN have cleaned up their act a lot. That and people are more aware now thanks to people spreading awareness and charity campaigns.

      You’re never too old Bruce – I once taught a lady of 70+ how to register for a dating site a few years ago back in my teaching in the community days. However if you’re married then it’s probably not your thing 🙂

  3. Love the site, alot of good advice here. Myself, I have given up on online dating to find my soulmate to spend the rest of my life with. there just aint no true men out there, theyre all scammers looking for a woman to support them, ain’t none of them know the meaning of the words “I Love you” it’s just something they say these days. But, for others the advice here is great.

    • Hi Sharon! Thanks for your feedback, that’s awesome.

      Not saying you should try this but once I started hanging with people that I would never usually hang with – I started meeting other people I never usually would. In fact I changed my social circles entirely, and, I met some bloody awesome people 🙂 Once thing I will say is that you can’t attribute that tag to “all men” there are just simply too many of us for that lol. And I’d like to think I was better than that too – but really sorry the men you have met so far in your life have been assholes :/

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