Why you are being unproductive

..And yet you probably don’t even realise it. Rewind back to a couple of months, no, actually a few weeks ago. I was the king of treating my online and offline life like a little sanctuary; keeping it smooth, calming the discussion down and talking things through. But since then I’ve recently had a brainstorm.

All that involvement; all that is extremely unproductive. Why? Well because all the while I have been trying to keep a smooth balance of life I’ve been wasting my time. I could have been doing something that I wanted to do like another blog post, or making another connection; rather than appeasing those that disagree with my opinions. Now I’m not saying I’m not up for reasonable discussion, but you know, the discussions that go off key into a negative spiral of “I just want a reaction from the other person”, so from now on my time will be used productively and not counter-productive.

It’s a very basic principle and I’ve heard it from people all the time. I just didn’t properly understand it, or own it. I see anger, hurt, pain as very negative emotions and similarly I really don’t like to inflict that upon others. I’m a debater, but not a controversialist. I like to collaborate with people rather than “compete” with them. I like to hit a point where we both can come to an understanding. Previously I’d debate all night and waste a whole lot of time being seriously unproductive. Now? If I see no collaboration I won’t waste my time.

Why am I being like this? Perhaps you may see this as arrogant or stubborn? I can see your point perhaps. But time; time is precious. We waste so much time doing nothing, wasting our lives away when we could be creating, achieving, inspiring, enabling and empowering and devising a life that we truly dreamed of for ourselves and others. Yet we choose to sit there and do.. not much, perhaps argue about nothing.

Arguing about nothing? Being negative? Ask yourself.. do I really need to be doing this? What else can I be doing right now? I was the absolute king of “having the last word” back in the day and it could have been the demise of me actually – but more recently I have developed the skill of moving along. Letting people think what they must, because realistically I’m not going to change that. Empowerment comes from within, not some dopey 35 year old with a weight problem lol (me!). That’s not to say I don’t challenge discrimination in the workplace; but that’s a different subject altogether.

So what can you do instead? I mean I talk a good game but I haven’t actually given any examples have I? Well, life and the world are in abundance. There is so much you can do and learn with your time once you realise how precious it actually is.

The list is literally endless. Time is precious! Don’t spend it being negative. Be positive, embrace life and all its loveliness 🙂

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I'm a man that's been through the pitfalls and elations of relationships in my ever growing quest to better my knowledge in the human condition. I've been in the game and around the Internet since 1996 and surprisingly I'm still using it today. I've definitely found myself in some weird and wonderful places and I hope to share all of this with you lucky people.

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