The only thing stopping you is YOU

The only thing stopping you is YOU

I’ve had dozens, no countless conversations with people that have dreams for themselves but are sad because they haven’t quite measured up to their reality. Or people that have wild and passionate dreams for themselves yet have absolutely no clue what they would like to do with themselves. It’s common. It’s real. And it’s a BIG problem in society.

Don’t worry. I’ve been there before

Many others have, and still are.

I believe in one thing and one thing only. You can achieve anything you want to in life if you put your mind to it. The mind and body is an immense tool if you would only take a moment to realise it.

People have told me in the past that I should get a real job, and, believe it or not, I still hear that from time to time. “Get a real job, you’re just playing at being a writer. It’s a hobby” Yet they fail to understand is that I earn from this, and I LOVE doing this. Isn’t that what a job should be? Doing what you love?

People get stuck in a rut and can’t see past the next paycheque. I get that. If I never wanted anything better for myself I’d still be a waiter in a hotel handing out water. And no, that job isn’t to be scoffed at because the tips were ‘amazing’ – but it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in some shape or form.


So when the chance came I quit work and went to college. College and not working was hard. Because it wasn’t like when I was young. When I was young you were paid to attend college. Not now. So it was hard. I remember one year deciding whether to heat my house for three hours during the winter or save the gas for a few more hot baths. The pennilessness was staggering.

Yet these are the sacrifices you need to make to achieve your dreams

No-one said it’d be easy.

If life was easy then everyone would be happy and rich.

are they?

Perhaps your goals may not take you down a route of pennilessness but there will definitely be some big sacrifices along the way. Perhaps a move, a job change, a diet change, giving up alcohol, who knows, right? These are your goals, not mine!

So you have no idea what you want to do?

I can give you an idea.

When at work where do you feel most comfortable? What’s your favourite thing about the work you do? For me, it was talking to, and making my customers smile when I was a waiter. It’s not a big thing but I always appreciated myself better when I could make others happy. It’s a big deal for me. I’ve always smiled at the world. I love trying to make others do that too.

So in a moment of madness, I had an awesome idea. If you don’t know me much you’ll realise that I’m a MASSIVE computer geek. Absolutely love them. I took a course that would enable me to get qualified as a tech support which would enable me to teach computers. Why? Because by now computers were becoming the next big thing, and there was a generation that was totally left behind. In the dark.

So I qualified in computing

And qualified in tutoring whilst in work.

That being said this journey was only the start of a long, long journey which has led me to this point. But some of the sacrifices up to that point I had made had been hard. Alcohol, cigarettes, partying, money, steady employment, some of my good friends, sleep (up late studying), and a plethora of others.

Yet obviously I’m battering on far too much about the sacrifices I have made, and yes, these have to happen. But the journey is a beautiful one. You will watch yourself grow, and mature, and view the world from a different perspective, and change your mindset as your achieve your goals. It’s truly inspiring.

Why now?

Haven’t you always wanted to be a fireman? Or a TV star? Or a computer analyst? Or a freelance writer?

What’s stopping you?

Why NOT now?

Are the reasons why you can’t, reasons? Or excuses?

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Raymond is a Mental Health activist and cryptocurrency enthusiast. He fuels his activism by taking to the web and trying to create core change in the way people interact. As an ex-Community‚Äč Manager, Raymond has a unique approach to communication and relationships and believes the way forward in life is improving the interactions between one another. Raymond started his blogging activities as a way to heal from a chequered past, and through this, his blog has become something far more empowering than he ever imagined. And thus, The Relationship Blogger Magazine was born.

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